Someone or something always has his attention and focus. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even.
It's all about timing, and you're in two different places. I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that.
Fall in love, learn, make some mistakes, laugh, serve other people, reproduce, and let the whole story start again. The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple.
I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. I married someone that wasn't of my faith and it worked great.
It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like. You and your fiancee might want to get in touch with one to work out the day-to-day issues of an interfaith marriage.
I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone.